Wouldn't it be nice?

Wouldn't it be nice if everybody who wants to be called an adult and treated like one actually acted like one? Ahh, the angst of youth. Everything is about them and only them and then they can't understand why someone else might not be overly thrilled with their very existence. I realize there are issues behind the current Jae drama but here’s my take on the essence of it. Why do certain people treat him like shit and then expect him to be grateful for deigning to notice his existence? This goes against the grain as a mother and especially as a woman. This isn't the way we should have raised our daughters. If you expect people to take you at your word, then make it mean something other than "I can fuck with anyone I like and they can't do anything about it." Also, if you want to be taken at face value, then accept others the same way. You can't have it both ways. As for the latest dustup here ladies, all I can say is, until you decide to treat Jae with much less contempt, I have decided you're not welcome in our home. Jae couldn't possibly care less what you think of him and I personally think that's a lot of your problem. In Shannon's case sort of a "Oh my God, no Jae to fall back on and cry and commiserate with about the men in my life." Sorry, he's obviously decided you're not worth the massive effort it takes to even begin to get to know you. Especially since you seem to think he's an asshole who only deserves contempt at the best of times. As for Crystal, I honestly don't know what the fuck your problem is anyway. Are you afraid Shannon might be more attracted to Jae than to you? Is that why you're so adamant about him being gay (he's not you know and I have the word of many gay men to back up that statement) and why you have to keep fanning the flames here? As far as I know, you've all always been treated with respect and decency while in our home even if you haven't always treated Jae with the same. Maybe it’s just the mother bear in me coming out, but until you can act like the adults you claim to be, stay away, I don’t have the time or the patience to deal with children having a tantrum. Learn to deal one on one and face to face or get out of the game. Nobody’s a victim here even if you’re convinced you are. We all make our own reality and that includes victim hood. So, grow up, get real and get a real life.